We have been molded by repression and crave full expression. We engage in shallow relationships, banal conversation, and hollow pastimes – and wonder why we feel empty and alone.
We want more, and don’t know how to get it. When we get it, we don’t know how to accept it. This is the nature of the separated life – when mind, body and spirit are disconnected.
A life of full feeling and expression. Where you have access to your life force energy. Where you experience depth and feeling. Where you know your essence, live from your spirit, and are anchored in your body.
For many years, I called this a “sensual life” – and it confused people. Because when we say the word “sensual” we immediately think it’s a code word for “sex.” Which made me sad. And a little mad. But eventually, I gave in. The Sensual Life became MAD Life, and I got to crawl out of the small box that people label “sex” and keep tucked under the bed at home.
But this blog remains as an ode to that earlier articulation of my work – because I still think it whispers something important to a part of ourselves that many have forgotten or forsaken. It’s still an important container for me, and maybe for you. It still speaks to a full-bodied, full-feeling, full-throated way of living and being in the world that I think changes everything.
Leave a comment and engage, or contact me privately if moved to do so. Stop by often. I’ll try to keep it fresh.
This heaviness that has returned to my body is not from my own rape this time. It is from my place in the collective. This grieving that I'm feeling is not for my own loss, but for what we have lost as women - in innocence, in trust, in potential, in power. For what men have lost by not experiencing the profound beauty of an unguarded woman who feels safe and expressed in her own body. For the reactivated trauma we all keep perpetuating, generation after generation.
Read MoreDivide-and-conquer is the oldest strategy in the book of empire. But does division always have to be divisive? Or is there a way to divide that can strengthen and ultimately, include?
Read MoreOur leadership. Our vulnerability. Our tenderness. Our power. Our sensual and sexual expression. Even the dance with our masculine selves – all depends on having a healthy, intact, integrated and fully expressed relationship with our sacred feminine selves.
It’s so tempting to feel that your life will improve as soon as your partner or family members change, or when you have a bigger house or get a better job. In both my workshops and my private coaching program, I’ve witnessed the exact opposite. People find happiness, satisfaction, fulfillment, warmth, love, abundance, support — in every area of their lives — as soon as they fortify their relationship with themselves.
Read MoreI want you to know that underneath the political rhetoric, the religious terror, the impossible double standards, the cruel repression, the rape culture, the entitlement, the sheer stupidity of misogyny…this power we hold is at the heart of it all.
It is exactly what the world fears about us. It is, even, what we fear about ourselves.
Read MoreIt is true. And it is all that is left to do
and say and show in every moment
between now and eternity
that love really is all.
Read More"I love you man, but I don't want you to play guitar at my funeral. Nothing personal. It's just becoming a cliche."
Read MoreEmancipation, a poem
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